Becoming Curious About Yourselves and Others
PS: and the Examen!! So good. 🙏🏻
I’m so glad you did this bonus issue, because there is an absolute bounty here to reflect on and enjoy! The idea of saying “I don’t care “when dealing with grief or some other emotional turmoil really resonates – I have found myself doing the same lately, and no it is a good sign, so to speak, when I don’t fall back on those words in the same way. Also, I love how you relate this to Jesus and the curiosity behind his questions.
I loved that Kate Bowler episode also, and I love, love your pumpkin! Gorgeous.
I used to feel bad when someone asked where do you want to eat and I'd reply, "I don't know, where do you want to go." I'm such an indirect person...it's painful for me to be direct! But my husband and I have worked out a system that works for us. When he asks where I want to eat or what I want for dinner, I can say, "I'm not sure, what are some options." He's great at coming up with options and then together we figure out what sounds good for this particular day. It took us a while to figure this out, but it is a very peaceful way to navigate this almost everyday question. Oh, and every once in a great while, I know where I'd like to go or what I want to eat right away! Thanks for the topic!
As an introvert and someone who moved every three years growing up, I struggle with good solid friendships. During the covid shut down, I somehow lost a friend that I never dreamed I would lose so easily. So my curious and somewhat painful questions are along the lines of what happened? How can we reconcile this seemed misunderstanding? What can I do or what have I done? These are hard issues for someone who also avoids controversy.This book looks like one that might help me take those steps. I look forward to reading this.
This is such a rich issue, Charity. Very interested in the book. I dearly love and need my friends, but the amount of private time I require as an introvert and the contentment of being alone are hindrances to living in community. I’ve often wondered when my nature veers toward sin. Thank you for such good work.
I would love to read this book! It sounds so good! Curiosity and friendship... for me, as an introvert, it is SO much easier for me to ask the questions with people I meet, such as, acquaintances or "friends" who are not in my really small circle of best friends, who I can talk freely with. To be honest, it is easier for me to ask the questions, because then I do not have to be vulnerable myself. Often times, people answer the questions and then don't really reciprocate. So, if I start asking about them, our conversations are steered away from me. I don't mean I can't talk about myself on the surface level, but to get to the really deep part is difficult for me.